I love watching my four partners have sex — it’s more satisfying than my own orgasm

This week’s diarist is in a relationship with four people (Picture: Getty Images/Myles Goode)

Welcome to How I Do It, the series in which we give you a seven-day sneak peek into the sex life of a stranger.

This week we hear from Kitty Osman, a 30-year-old erotic writer living in London.

Bisexual Kitty is polyamorous, and in a committed relationships with four people — right now, she isn’t interested in adding anyone else to the mix.

‘I knew I was poly at 25, but I’d been showing signs for much longer,’ Kitty says. ‘I’d have crushes and fantasise about having relationships with other people while dating someone. I also enjoyed people flirting with my partners.’

But having four partners isn’t always easy, as Kitty struggles with making sure all their needs are met consistently. She’s also open to the idea of a ‘nesting partner’ (a poly partner she would live with), but is happy being independent.

While she has sex twice a week, Kitty actually prefers to watch her other partners get intimate instead.

‘I’m a giver and a voyeur,’ she says. ‘I really love watching people have sex, masturbate or orgasm in front of me. The viewing is half of the enjoyment for me, so if there’s a chance I can get a better view instead of getting worked over myself, I’ll go for that.’

Without further ado, here’s how Kitty got on this week…

The following sex diary is, as you might imagine, not safe for work.

Monday

I make sure to message and catch up with my long-distance partners, Sam
and Alicia, who have been in a relationship for 15 years, through our group chat.

I met Sam at a work conference and went on to flirt with him at the next
party we were both at, where I ended up taking him home. He then set up a date with us and his girlfriend, Alicia. I began seeing them together when I took Sam’s threesome virginity about nine months ago.

They’re in York and I’m in London, so we can only meet every other month or so, which means communication is key. I enjoy voyeurism and cuckoldry, so it suits my kinks to sit back and watch them in person or over a screen.

Today we speak about a spanking Alicia had taken at the weekend, and they show me photos of her red backside. It’s arousing and shocking.

I tell them I miss them terribly and say my goodbyes, before taking out my favourite toy, a sparkle covered vibrator with veiny protrusions.

I think about how much I love worshipping Alicia’s body in person, especially after Sam has had his way with her, while I use my vibrator with as much pressure as I can.

Tuesday

I used to love going to the London sex dungeon, Studio Sevvven. It’s closed down, but to celebrate the time they were open, they’ve asked people to submit written excerpts about their experiences there.

I remember my favourite memory, when a woman ran up to me and said: ‘You like to watch, right? I like to be seen.’ She took off her dress immediately, and soon her friend came over and got undressed as well, as they giggled to each other.

My whole body felt aflame, I was so embarrassed to as I felt they were seeing me concretely as a ‘pervert’ – a voyeur. But as the shame boiled in the pit of my stomach, it made me wet.

They asked if I wanted to watch them have sex, so they corralled a third girl into our group and sat me in a large chair dressed up like a throne in the
corner.

They got the clothes off their new friend and strapped her down over a spanking bench, long ways, so she could be spit-roasted by the two of them wearing two strap-ons. Watching it was beautiful and it was so overwhelming, I didn’t even think to take my own clothes off.

Wednesday

I spend the day at work excited because it’s officially one month since Cici first called me her girlfriend. We met on a dating app late last year and despite our first date being filled with personal trip-falls, like turning up late and bleeding through my dress on my period, we got on like a house on fire.

I want to celebrate that today so I send her a playlist filled with songs that remind me of her and our relationship. She’d given me one on my birthday and it was amazing getting such a personal present!

Cici messages to tell me that it’s made her well-up on the train while she listened to it, which makes me feel like a wonderful girlfriend. As one of my two London-based partners I see her usually once or twice a week and I tell her I can’t wait to see her.

Thursday

I feel a bit stir crazy trapped at my home desk today, but my long-term partner Jasmine, who’s non-binary, is keeping me sane. We’ve been seeing each other for over two years now after meeting on a dating app, and we live close to each other.

We message throughout the day and meet when we’re both shattered from work and want to blow off some steam together. It’s a luxury given that we’re both so busy in the evenings.

I want to say these aren’t booty calls because we’re actually dating, but they do feel that way. Jasmine really needs to work something out tonight and is being grabby while I get undressed.

Jasmine pinches the fatty parts of my belly and legs in a sharp way that makes my stomach warm and sometimes they’ll run their nails along me in scratches. Jasmine likes to be rough which always makes me feel
desired.

They talk about my body in a crude way and bite along my neck and breasts, marking me with bruises that I’ll be able to press into tomorrow while I’m masturbating about this.

While it’s rough sex, I communicate my boundaries with Jasmine – and withall my partners very early on – so we all know where we stand.

First I ride Jasmine and they slap at my thighs and ass while I do. Each thrust is amazing and they flash me a cheeky grin that makes me laugh and kiss them.

When they turn me onto my knees and get behind me I feel even fuller than before. I’m getting louder, loud enough I worry about my neighbours.

Friday

Cici’s nesting partner (the partner she lives with) is a research professor and spends a lot of time away on trip,so I go over to hers tonight.

She’s feeling a little ill so I want to pamper her. After an hour or two watching a horror series we both love, I take her to bed.

I have her show me her favourite vibrator. I place it on her with enough room for me to go down on her at the same time.

She likes a lot of power for such a small lady and my nose goes numb from the vibrations hitting it by the end of our session, but it’s lovely.

I love that she’s vocal too because it always makes me feel like I’m doing something right. She comes, and we lay in each other’s arms until we both get too hot and we roll apart.

Saturday

Cici takes me to see a play to celebrate my birthday which was earlier this month. It was my first birthday with all my partners and I’d felt so spoilt getting gifts and love from everyone at once – shoes, sweet treats, art, books.

She comes to meet me just after getting a new haircut which looks gorgeous on her, and we go thrifting and buy some dirty comics to read later.

The show she’s got us tickets for is Count Dykula, a campy experimental cabaret-style musical that I instantly fall in love with. Cici makes me laugh by comparing me to the chesty antagonist and we both get hot under the collar seeing the gunshow Count Dykula has going on beneath their leather jacket.

We end the night early, going to our opposite sides of London, but not before making everyone around us sick with all our kissing and cuddling in an old boozer by the theatre.

Sunday

Jasmine wants to introduce me to their newest partner Lucy, and we all agree to meet at a local sex party we enjoy. Lucy brings a platonic friend Rachel, who also enjoys the scene.

These parties aren’t the free-for-all orgies some people might think, but there’s a chance we might get on, and I might ask politely if I can watch
them ‘get it on’.

Jasmine is a huge exhibitionist! But instead the meeting ends in a foursome with Jasmine, Lucy, Rachel and I.

We all agree to go into a playspace together and discuss likes. Jasmine wants to finish on someone, and Rachel wants to be dominated.

She reaches for a pink flogger, and asks if I’d like to use it on her. I tell her I’d love to, but first I want her to ride my face.

Then I flog both of them, scratching and biting them for a little variety in the pain as well. I finish off Rachel first, while Jasmine has sex with Lucy.

Then I turn to make out with Lucy while Jasmine has sex with Rachel. Watching them move so passionately always gets me excited.

It’s the perfect way to introduce new friends and we all agree to meet again in the future for more fun.

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